Having Better Sex When You’ve Been Together for Ages

Some facts of life are sad but universally true. Here’s one of them – even the best sex can become boring after a while.

Having a partner for a long, long, long time means sexy time will eventually get stale unless you put a conscious effort into switching things up and adding freshness to the routine.

Habit and knowing each other really well can interfere with incredible sex in a long-term relationship. If you’ve been together for ages, however, you can do a couple of simple things to start rocking each other’s worlds once again.

Have Sex in a New Place

The best way to kill the routine involves trying something new sexually.

Taking things out of the bedroom gives you the easiest and quickest change possible.

You don’t even have to enjoy sex out of the house. Get together on the sofa in the living room. The kitchen table or the counter will also give you a nice alternative to the bed.

If you’re feeling extra-sexy, you can have sex in the car (remember the days when you first started dating?) or in a public place. That final idea adds the element of getting caught to the equation. As a result, you’ll feel super aroused and the sex will probably feel better than it has in a long time.

Use Sex Toys

A few sex toys will also reveal aspects of sexual variety that you haven’t had in a long time.

From cute pink dildos to complex and sophisticated thrusting sex machines – there’s just so much to explore together. The mere process of researching and shopping for sex toys will get both of you excited to try something new in the bedroom.

You can start out simple, especially if you’ve never used a sex toy before. A cute bullet vibe is great for starters. Additionally, it’s incredibly versatile. The bullet vibe can be used to stimulate multiple external and internal erogenous zones. Once you discover what this little guy is capable of, you’ll quickly start looking for an even more powerful adult item.

Play Out a Fantasy Scenario

If you’ve been together for ages, you should feel comfortable discussing sexual fantasies.

Have you ever told your partner about a dream erotic scenario you think of? The time may be right to bring that vision to reality.

Role playing is very simple and it can be incredibly fulfilling at the same time. The fact you are assuming a role brings the freshness needed to make those sparks fly once again. Additionally, you have so many fantasy scenarios to explore. Chances are that at least a couple of roleplay ideas will get both of you excited to experiment in the bedroom.

Try Sex without Penetration

Does your sex routine always look the same? Are you always having a little bit of foreplay, followed by penetrative sex?

Here’s a simple idea that can help you enjoy a bit of novelty – try sexual intimacy without penetration.

Thinking of ways to please each other without having body parts going in each other will challenge and excite you. Such exercises will teach you to think about sex in a new way.

Some of the fun things you can do include oral sex, sensual massages, intense makeout sessions, impact play and light BDSM, taking a sensual bath together, mutual masturbation and even phone sex or sexting.

The trick here is to get creative. Get creative and put emphasis on body parts that often get neglected during sex. The outcome is going to be tremendously exciting and invigorating.

Have Long Kisses

Cuddling and building the intimacy are as important as sex itself.

When was the last time you kissed for 20 minutes passionately, deeply and wholeheartedly? Give this experiment a try. Lay in bed together and just kiss. Touch each other, hold each other and have the most intense hug ever. Forget about sexual expectations and just get lost in the experience. This kind of intimacy may lead to sex or it may be an experience in itself. Whatever happens, you will feel more connected and you’ll easily bring back some of the intense emotions experienced during the early stages of a relationship.